Thursday, June 30, 2011

LAFB #16: Coming Back to FaceBook

Somewhere on the order of a year ago, I deleted FaceBook because it was getting in the way of my real life and responsibilities.  After a certain period of time, I got bored and decided to create this blog.  When I started up, I really thought there would be a greater demand for this type of page, as it seemed I wasn't the only one leaving the world's greatest social networking site of all time, but maybe I was off on my calculations.  Still, I left FaceBook for me, not for anyone else.  It's not easy to delete 1600 friends in a day.

I have a confession to make: if I haven't mentioned it already, I have a FaceBook account.  Until recently, this was a stealth account I used to check things I can only check through FB, such as fan pages and minor stalking.  Then I added one friend.  Then another.  Then they started sending me friend requests. 

This leaves me at a juncture: do I resurrect the old account or press on with the new one?  Do I delete this one, too, or just live it up and accept it as the way things are going to operate?  Do I stop accepting friend requests, or do I slowly build back up to my original 1600?  Of course, I'd have a hard time remembering who all 1600 of my old friends were, mostly since i met many of them a long time ago and haven't kept up.  But do I really care about being friends with all the people I once went to high school with?  I don't know.

When I added my friend John "The Wrecka" Barecca again, he confronted me:

So, I went back and read your justification for leaving facebook. I assume you also wrote about why you have returned... It better be pretty good since the basis for your blog was your departure... :-):-)
That's why I love my brothers in Christ.  Someone to shoot me straight and punch me in the face when I need it.  Thanks, John.  He is, in fact, referring to my first post ever on this blog, which contained my reasoning behind everything mentioned above.  I myself had to reread that one to remind myself of what I'm doing there, as well as what I'm doing over here.
All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not -- I Corinthians 10:23.
The good news is what I've learned in the past year: I don't have to be controlled by FaceBook in order to be happy.
I don't have to sit around waiting for someone else to update their status or post a new picture in order to be happy.
I don't have to be tagged in photos or have people post on my wall or comment on my status in order to be happy.
And I don't have to surrender my life to FaceBook in order to be happy, either.  Currently, I still don't have the page bookmarked, which is saying something, considering how many pointless bookmarks I already have.  So maybe I'm selling out, which incidentally has become my most popular post ever due to the inclusion of an image of a car phone, or maybe I'm just learning maturity and moderation.  Key word: learning.  Don't judge a thing before its time.
Wanna find me on FaceBook?  Search for ZJK Brewer.  I've added most of my new blogosphere friends, although I'm sure I've missed a few.  Realistically, I want to do more with Love Thy Roommate and social media, including creating and maintaining a fan page, so look out for that in the coming days.
And look out for me too, please.  Be a John Barecca.  Ask me the hard questions.  Ask me if I'm really dedicating enough time to the Lord when you see me puttering around FaceBook at 3 A.M.
Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ. -- Galatians 6:2.


  1. If this were Facebook I would "like" this. ;-)

  2. facebook can be a good way to promote your blogs! At least, I've got a few extra people to read mine that way. Good to know that it doesn't rule your life though.

  3. Reb: yes, I like this post too ^.^

    Harma: I've noticed that as well. Thank you Google Analytics for tracking how people get here.

  4. I like it. It's like coming full circle. That's what it's all about right? Learning and adapting and growing?

    That, and it's about the benjamins. That's what Puff taught me, and he's my father.

  5. I thought it was all about the Pentiums, maybe that's what I've been doing wrong.